Vendetta Adult
Mom & Dad are insane?
I’m graduating in a couple weeks and I wanted to have a graduation party. My dad and I went to a family friends son’s party last year and the guests were a mix of the graduate’s friends, his parents friends, family friends, relatives, etc, and that is really how I want mine to be. However, my mother refuses to have adults at my party. The reason is that she hates my father and all the family friends would be his friends and their families (who I like very much, have known me since I was a baby, and I want to have at my party). This is all I ask, this one thing, but I am so frustrated with my mother because every time I try to bring it up she starts ranting about my father. She will never belive this is what I want, but that it is my father trying to get his way through me. In fact, he has nothing to do with it, but my mother gets hysterical when I suggest having adults. How can I convince her to have it the way I want, just this once, without thinking about her own vendetta?
I would sit your mother down and very, very calmly explain that you are looking forward to spending your big day with both of your parents. Say you understand her feelings towards your father but you are asking her to set those feelings aside so you can have the graduation party you so desire. Tell her that her father’s friends are people who have been in your life from the beginning and you want to share this day with them.
If she is unwilling to do this, you will be having your party at another location with the guests that you choose arriving. Let her know you would be devastated if she did not wish to spend the day with you but you do not want to exclude those that have impacted your life to help make you the success you are today.
Oh, and Happy Graduation!!!