Dictator Softball
I found out my hubby is gay, should I throw him out?
My hubby has become distant, he comes home late smelling like smoke, and he’s quit as our son’s softball coach and is spending time online. I did check his computer history and he is visiting GAY dating sites, with mapped out directions to get there, I was very angry, confronted him, but he denied it all and said I was out of line… What should I do, how do I sort out this mess??????? And he’s a dictator in bed too!
The fact that his routine has recently undergone a rapid change, he comes in smelling different and he is frequenting dating sites and driving directions are clear signs that he is very likely cheating on you. What I would say is to discuss the matter no further. You say he has denied anything thus far.so its time for the ultimate test.
I say that you lay off on the questions, because he obviously isn’t going to tell you the truth, and you should wait a few weeks. Then I would suggest investing in a keylogger. Its very easy to install on the computer and pretty much undetectable.
Just tell your husband that he has been acting strangely, and that you love him and you are just worried. Then tell him to let his conscience be his guide. Meanwhile, order one of these and install it on your computer. http://www.thinkgeek.com/gadgets/security/c49f/ I would suggest ordering it from a friend’s house and having it shipped either there or sent to you at work.
Record his conversations for a while, then just go and look at what hes been doing. The truth will come out. If he did in fact lie to you, print out what you have recorded, and call a lawyer. Its time to ile for divorce.
Also, if he has in fact been cheating on you, I would highly suggest you get tested for HIV and other STDs. If you want to do it discreetly, just donate some blood to a blood drive. They do the full lab work on it to see if you have any diseases or anything.
Oh yeah, and clear the history on the computer after looking up the link I sent you and after reading the answers to this question. The last thing you need to be doing is tipping him off